Convincing Your Parents to Accept Help
If your parents need home care, but won’t accept the help, there are solutions!
It is not an easy decision to accept help around the house, and especially when it comes to personal care. The decision often represents a loss of independence, and the realization that they can’t do as much as they used to. This can be an overwhelming and depressing time in their lives.
If your loved one is resisting help, it is important to be respectful of their wishes. However, it is important that proper care is put in place. Therefore, getting your loved one the help they need should be done in a manner that helps ease them into this major lifestyle change.
Just remember to be patient and keep the following suggestions in mind:
- Introduce the idea slowly. Give them time to accept the idea.
- Offer a trial period. They may be willing to try a Support Worker for a limited time, especially if they know they can change their mind later.
- Frame it differently. Sometimes parents are more willing to accept a Support Worker’s help if it is presented as being for the family caregiver’s benefit.
- Start the Support Worker with household chores, NOT personal or “hands on” care.
- Slowly introduce these other tasks as familiarity grows.
- Help your parent visit a few nursing homes to review their options. Most seniors prefer to stay in their home and may be willing to accept the help required to stay there.
- Often people will listen to their doctor. Ask their doctor to suggest a plan that includes a Support Worker.
- Often, the person may be concerned about the cost of services. Remember that most of today’s seniors grew up in the Depression and World War years. Money is always on their mind.
The Retire-At-Home Approach:
For over 20 years, Retire-At-Home has been faced with the resistance to accept help. In fact, most of our services are initiated by the family members of loved ones, often the children of our clients. In most of these cases, the biggest challenge is helping their parent accept the help in their home, even when they need it.
That’s why Retire-At-Home starts with a free, no-obligation consultation with a nurse. During this consultation, our nurses have a guided, one-on-one conversation about the concerns, fears, and resistance your loved one may have to help. By ensuring their independence and that they remain in charge, our nurses can often convince your loved ones that the care they need is the care they want.
In these situations we always suggest starting services slowly and ensuring that we gather feedback and input from our client to ensure they feel part of the decision process.